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[ricevermicelli]

I am completely failing to write a routine email asking someone for info so that we can pay them. Which is ridiculous. If I have written one of those emails in my life, I have written hundreds. I should be able to do it in my sleep by now.

Also, I am trying to put together a time table for a conference. I know when all the things happen, I just need to say who should be doing what, in terms of making sure stuff is in place. Again, this shouldn't require cognitive engagement, and I'm flailing.

I am wearing a head scarf for the first time today, because while I do still have hair, it is seriously falling out. I shed like one of those little hairy dogs.

I feel like the scarf looks weird. Like there's an official Cancer Patient Way To Wear A Head Scarf that I don't know, because despite the fact that they gave me a prescription for a wig, and showed me the boutique in the hospital where I could get one, and where they would sell me bras that make me look halfway normal, and teach me things like How To Tie A Scarf When You Are A Cancer Patient, I skipped all my How To Be A Cancer Patient Lessons.

But wearing a scarf on your head is definitely how you get seats on the T.

Comments

[dreams-of-wings.livejournal.com]

we should have some how to wear a scarf practice sessions, where we come up with ridiculous ways to do it and perhaps in the meantime stumble across the way you actually like.

[athenasbanquet.livejournal.com]

I have an astonishingly extensive collection of scarves and would be happy to engage with this plan. Also, a sewing machine and the ability to take requests.

[catling.livejournal.com]

*has a sudden urge to go out and buy you scarves with skulls on them, and scarves in many shiny sparkly patterns and so on*

If you want, we can totally have some kind of chick-fest where I and other of your friends come over and experiment with different snazzy ways to wrap said scarf. Hell, I dunno why I said chick-fest, some of our male friends are way better at this shit than I am. It can be another party. There could be more Scorpion Bowls, even.

[beth_leonard]

scarves with skulls on them
And make little cross-bones right where the breasts should be too.
--Beth

[ricevermicelli.livejournal.com]

I'm off alcohol for the duration of chemo.

Which is kind of a pain, because hot damn could I use a cocktail, but probably for the best, because I'm hugely aware of the metabolic cost of every single thing I consume right now.

[catling.livejournal.com]

Oh DUH. Of course you are. Silly catling is silly.

But! We can still have some sort of scarf wrapping shindig with whatever beverage and food comforts you are allowed and currently enjoy. Or not worry about food at all if you are not so much enjoying it at present, and just be all about the scarf wrapping and entertainment instead.

For you, I would dance, if asked. Or hire dancers (probably a better choice, but it's your call!).

[quueer.livejournal.com]

Can we run a multipart experiment? How frequently you get seats on the T with the headscarf vs how frequently you get one rocking cancer head? We'd have to factor in multiple variables, including when and where you get on the T, times, etc.

Perhaps an excel spreadsheet would help. Does your phone run excel?

ps. you can probably still go to the how to be a cancer patient session. But there's probably youtube videos out there that suck less.

[ricevermicelli.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I've given that thought and I worry about it. I don't know anyone I can ask - I could hit Sheroes about it - but it does seem sort of provocative and tactless.

[athenasbanquet.livejournal.com]

I have a friend who is Muslim who I could ask about it. She may also just have some good scarf-wrapping ideas/techniques as well.

[athenasbanquet.livejournal.com]

Lo, friend has been asked and she says:

maybe some people would find it weird/offensive, but i don't really see it that way
there are lots of options, people are incredibly artistic with hijab and there are many pre-sewn types
it's just a style, and if it looks like the style muslim women wear then she might get mistaken for muslim
just as she might get mistaken for jewish if she wears it in the style of orthodox women

So there you have it. Data point. (I find that this could be an interesting sociological experiment: do you get more seats when you wrap your scarf Like A Cancer Patient versus when you wrap it Like A Muslim.)